Dating Both Sides of a Gemini (2024)

Fickle, gossipy, compulsively flirtatious—Gemini qualities are often synonymous with red flags in the dating world. “I like him, but he’s a Gemini,” is something I’ve heard a handful of times eavesdropping around cafés in Los Angeles. Aside from Scorpios, Geminis are the zodiac residents that receive the most shade from their neighboring signs. As an ally of the Gemini community with decades-long friendships and a few of those “good terms” exes, I’m here to put the rumors to rest.

As the twin sign, Geminis are seen as being two-sided or untrustworthy—while I agree there are two (maybe more) sides to each Gemini, this doesn’t imply deceit. “When it comes to dating both sides of a Gemini, many people assume that two sides implies they are ‘two-faced,’” begins C.P., Professional Gemini. “There are certainly two twins. Twin #1 is an extrovert who loves to gossip. This one might be where the two-faced stereotype comes from, but it’s all in good fun. Twin #2 is a self-absorbed nihilist asking themselves ‘who even am I in this world?’” At the end of the day, “dating both sides of the twins is just accepting each day for what it is.” Yes, they can be capricious, unreliable know-it-alls, but there is a delicate streak of vulnerability under all that sound and fury. When you get to know the other side of a Gemini, you’ve struck gold.

So how do you de-mystify the other side of a Gemini? I asked an expert panel of the smartest, sexiest Geminis I know to give us the inside scoop on the myths, warning signs, and green lights when dating these astrological twins.

Geminis Flirt With Information

“As a Gemini, there is a learning curve to reading our expressions. When I first started dating my current boyfriend he said he couldn’t tell if I liked him. I was like ‘What are you talking about, I made you memes.’ Bespoke memes! Once he learned how to read my style of communication, it was all good.” H.S. (Full-time Gemini)

As an air sign, a Gemini’s love language is the art of conversation. They love facts, debates, witty banter—all with a hint of intrigue. They love to dish. They get revved up at the idea of dissecting a text conversation, unpacking the drama of a petty disagreement, and overanalyzing subtext. They apply the same level of aggressive scrutiny to conversations ranging from film and politics to memes and sexts. At times you may feel they are trying to start a fight, but if you look closely, you can see the Sims green ++ signs floating over their heads. Play in the space with them. They love a debate especially if it’s rife with witty banter. Humor is the quickest way to a Gemini’s heart.

Both Sides Get Bored Easily

“Sure, you could call us two-faced, but the two faces don’t exclude one another. It’s not a Jekyll and Hyde situation. They are integrated, and often in dialogue with each other. It’s not that there is a disingenuous side, just one we feel safer keeping hidden and less extroverted.” M.S. (Gemini since 1995)

As a mutable sign, Geminis are chameleons in any situation. They are posting a front-facing video talking about their newest juice cleanse and three hours later they’re live tweeting drunk from Domino’s. It’s not that they’re disingenuous, they are just driven by novelty. The quickest way to lose a Gemini is to be aggressively predictable—“We don’t like predictability, we need a twist,” says M.S. If you start telling them a story they’ve heard before they’ll be the first to tell you. To keep a Gemini’s attention—aka to pry their eyes off their phone—keep a few surprises up your sleeve. An impromptu after-dinner movie, a train ride to Coney Island, even an unexpected little treat. Geminis are like giddy children when it comes to thoughtful and engaging surprises—their vulnerable “other” side melts at a display of “thoughtfulness.” Their forthrightness and energy usually make them the one who calls all the shots, but they secretly love when someone else makes the plans for once.

Some Are Secret Romantics

“A lot of Geminis are secretly very romantic. But sometimes that can be hidden in a coded, ironic layer of flirtation. Especially if they have a lot of earth or water placements in their chart, they sometimes need permission from the other person to be emotional. I'm actually a serial monogamist. I might flirt, flirt, flirt but if I want to be with someone, I’m going to be with them for years.” C.P. (Professional Gemini, PhD)

If you find yourself crushing on a Gemini, don’t stress. Everyone thinks they are elusive and mysterious—and they definitely want you to believe that—but when you get through to that other side, they are some of the sweetest, loyal, and ride-or-die signs of the zodiac. Yes, they love to flirt, but if they take a shine to you, they will be on you like flypaper. If a Gemini is in your DMs for more than a week, they have a big ol’ crush on you. Even though they seem so bombastic and extroverted, they may need you to take the first emotional steps in the relationship to make them feel safe.

They Love A Game, But They Aren’t All Players

“Geminis love a bit of a game when they start dating. If you give them too much all at once, or not enough, they might get a bit bored. Keep them on their toes. Don’t watch their Instagram story til the 23rd hour. Start typing a response and don’t send it. Post cryptic thirst traps. This will drive them absolutely insane and have you on their mind for days.” M.H. (Gemini with a heart of gold)

Who doesn’t love a little mind game? Well, most people don’t. This is why the more timid or no-nonsense signs often find themselves clashing with the bombastic air sign. Geminis love the thrill of the chase, but it’s all in good fun. If it starts to feel cruel or overly complicated they could shy away or lose interest. Remember, deep down many of them are a bit flighty because they’re afraid of getting hurt. As said by C.P., “The most under-discussed thing about Geminis is that they are quite nervous and fickle in love. The source of the fickleness is the fear of embarrassing themselves. Gemini energy is so friendly out of a huge fear of rejection.” Play with their ego a little bit to keep them entertained, but make sure to back it up with sincere reassurance so no one gets hurt.

Prepare for Some Turbulence

“If you feel like you’re getting mixed signals, like they’re flirty over text but make eye contact with everyone but you at the function, it’s because they like you. A Gemini would rather die than be earnest. That being said, Gemini ghosting is real.” C.P.

When you’re dating both sides of a Gemini, remember that the most frustrating part of their behavior stems from the insecurities of Twin #2. As inherent people-pleasers, they have a huge fear of conflict and rejection, which results in the stereotypically fickle behavior. According to C.P., the ghosting often “comes from a fear of conflict, confrontation, or letting people down. In moments of insecurity, they can sometimes convince themselves the other person doesn’t care about them anyways. One thing I want to defend about Geminis is that all of their flakiness, evasiveness, and conflict avoidance come from a sweet place of not wanting to hurt other people’s feelings.” If you’re getting mixed signals from a Gemini, don’t lose all hope. Chances are they’re feeling skittish about their own feelings. Or they are in the beginning stages of ghosting you. Either way, all’s fair in love and war, folks.

How to Flirt With a Gemini

Depending on your astrological sun sign, here is the best way to connect with your Gemini crush:

Aries: Competitive karaoke

Taurus: An impromptu tasting menu dinner

Gemini: Talking over each other for hours

Cancer: Asking, “Can I tell you a secret?”

Leo: Going on a shopping spree

Virgo: Taking Adderall and making an in-and-out list

Libra: Getting a new set of acrylics

Scorpio: Sex

Sagittarius: Debating the core philosophies of Kant vs. Nietzsche

Capricorn: Going to the container store

Aquarius: Dropping acid

Pisces: Going to the beach at night

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Do two Geminis make a good couple? ›

Gemini and Gemini: Relationship Compatibility

Gemini's curiosity and open-mindedness will serve them well in a relationship. This is a pair that always has fun together, even when they're doing boring stuff like laundry and taxes. In fact, the challenge for these two is to learn that sometimes, they have to be serious!

Why are Geminis red flags? ›

Gemini (May 21 - June 20): Geminis are social butterflies, but a red flag might be their inconsistency. If they seem indecisive or change their opinions too often, it could create confusion and instability in the relationship.

What is the personality of a double Gemini? ›

One of the key traits of Gemini is their duality. Symbolized by the Twins, Gemini people often exhibit two contrasting personalities. They possess a multifaceted nature, sometimes appearing outgoing and sociable, while at other times, displaying introverted and introspective tendencies.

How are Geminis two sided? ›

Represented by the twins, Geminis exhibit dual personalities. You can never know a Gemini completely. They can be loving and gentle one moment and distant and detached the other. You never know which part of a Gemini you are experiencing.

Who do Geminis mostly marry? ›

Not many people have what it takes to keep your interest. But before you decide marriage isn't for you, you may want to keep your eye out for an Aries, Gemini, or Libra. According to an astrologer, these are three zodiac signs Gemini is most likely to marry.

Who will Gemini fall in love with? ›

Generally, the most compatible signs for Gemini friendships and romantic relationships are fellow air signs Aquarius and Libra, as they'll have an innate understanding of Gemini's mental nature. Fire signs (Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius) are similarly energetic and can match well with our Gemini friends.

What is a Geminis biggest insecurity? ›

Geminis are curious and love to communicate, ruled by Mercury, the planet of communication. They can be indecisive and anxious, often doubting their choices in relationships. This indecisiveness makes them feel insecure, especially if they fear their partner might find someone else more interesting.

What disorder do Geminis have? ›

It's not uncommon for Geminis to suffer from generalized anxiety disorder, insomnia, and nervous exhaustion.

Is Gemini loyal in a relationship? ›

If you find yourself crushing on a Gemini, don't stress. Everyone thinks they are elusive and mysterious—and they definitely want you to believe that—but when you get through to that other side, they are some of the sweetest, loyal, and ride-or-die signs of the zodiac.

Who is Geminis twin flame? ›

In astrology, there is a belief that the following are complementary twin flame zodiac signs: Aries and Libra. Taurus and Scorpio. Gemini and Sagittarius.

What are the three types of a Gemini? ›

Feb. 9, 2021, 9:22 p.m. There's three types of Gemini Suns: Geminis who have Mercury in Taurus, Geminis who have Mercury in Cancer, and Geminis who have Mercury in Gemini. Furthermore, Geminis with Gemini Mercury have Mercuries that are either in the morning phase, the evening phase, or combust.

What is the chemistry between two Geminis? ›

Geminis can make their relationship work by focusing on their mutual attraction and their love for spontaneity. The one thing Geminis hate is being bored, and with another Gemini, they never will be. Geminis tend to fall for their love interests hard and fast.

How do two Geminis do in a relationship? ›

Two Geminis together is a crowded relationship, since each pair is a set of twins. The party and conversations will go on forever — leading to good times. The caveat is that they won't be able to get a word in edgewise, unless they remember to let the other talk.

What is a Geminis weakness? ›

Their strengths are that they're adaptable, outgoing, and intelligent—there's never a dull moment with a Gemini. However, their weaknesses are that they're indecisive, impulsive, unreliable, and nosy—be careful telling a Gemini your deepest darkest secrets.

What is a Geminis love language? ›

They thrive on hugs, kisses, and tender embraces, making sure their partner feels cherished and adored. But it's not just about the physical – they also love expressing their affection through thoughtful gestures and meaningful gifts that speak to the heart. For Gemini, love is all about words and quality time.

Can a Gemini man be with a Gemini woman? ›

Being adventurous all the time in a relationship can be difficult and stressful for the pair. The Gemini male and Gemini female, symbolised by twins, have a lot to gain in terms of love, intimacy, and marriage. The two air signs communicate quite well during both their romance and marriage.

Do Geminis make good boyfriends? ›

The bottom line for dating a Gemini

These clever partners are always happy to help you come up with a smart solution when you're in a pinch and keep you laughing through even the most difficult times. If you're looking for someone to learn alongside, Gemini is your ideal mate.

What is the perfect couple for Gemini? ›

High Gemini Compatibility: Aries, Leo, Libra, Aquarius. To answer the question, "Who is Gemini most compatible with?", look no further than Aries, Leo, Libra, and Aquarius.

Who are soulmates to Geminis? ›

The zodiac signs most likely to be Gemini's soulmate are Aries, Sagittarius, Aquarius, Leo, and Cancer. Zodiac signs that are Gemini soulmates know what it takes to love you for who you are.

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